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The Time is Now to Help


A family's loss from cancer



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January 11, 2012 | 07:25 AM
Dear W.C.,

I am very worried about the family next door. They have three beautiful children. The mother has been battling cancer for several years. I spoke to the father several days ago and he confessed to me that his wife only has a few months left to live. He broke down in tears and I didn't know what to say.

Then he told me how they were struggling financially and were about to lose their car. I felt so inadequate but then remembered The Time Is Now To Help and knew there was something I could do to help them. I decided to write this letter on this family's behalf. They are very deserving good people. I am filled with grief over what these children will have to endure when their mother passes on. I pray for this family every day. Please look in on this family.

A Grieving Neighbor

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Dear Readers,

There seems to be so many requests due to the cancer epidemic that is affecting so many. I receive several letters a week where families are affected by this horrible disease.

I called the number given to me by the worried neighbor. It was answered by who I assumed was the father. After my introduction and a few minutes conversation I knew I was speaking to the father. At first he was confused but after I explained who had referred them I could hear the father begin to cry.

I asked if I could come over to talk in person and he agreed. I drove to the address he gave me and when I arrived the father was by the door waiting. It was a small house in a nice neighborhood. He invited me in and I was immediately surrounded by two girls and a boy ranging in ages from around eight to 12. They were all curious and the father politely introduced each one. After the introduction he asked me to sit in the kitchen where we could speak more privately.

He thanked me for coming to visit. He told me, "I love my wife very much." Then he began to cry. I asked where his wife was and I saw the pain in his eyes as he said she was lying down. He told me, "My wife knows about you and The Time Is Now To Help. She would like to meet you." I told the husband I would be honored.

I entered the darkened room and immediately saw how sick the mother was. She was curled up on the bed. She was very thin and she had lost all her hair due to their last effort at chemotherapy. I thought she was asleep but then I heard her weakly call her husband. She asked in a whisper, "Who's here?" The husband introduced me to his wife. She reached out and I grasped her thin hand. She had a faint smile and said she had heard good things about me. I smiled back and told her I heard she is very loved. She faintly smiled again, this time looking at her loving husband.

After several minutes of talking I asked what I could do to help. After she regained her breath she said, "There is not much you can do for me now but please pray for me and can you please help my family? I am so worried about them. This disease has cost so much to fight. The only reason we are not evicted is because our landlord feels sorry for us. Please help my husband and children."

I promised this woman struggling to hang on for her family that we would help them. I felt her squeeze my hand as she showed that faint smile again. I saw there were tears on her face. With that she seemed to relax and closed her eyes. Her husband told me she gets exhausted quickly. I knew it was time to let her rest. The husband and I went back to the kitchen to talk about their finances.

After a thorough review I called the landlord. I knew him and he has a good heart. He told me not to worry, the least he could do was let them live rent free. I profusely thanked this God-loving man for his caring and sharing.

The husband told me how the mother had worked full-time until she became too sick due to the treatments. She had also become too sick to care for the children or herself. He not only had to work at a labor intensive job, he also had to come home and care for his very sick wife. He missed many days of work due to treatments, surgery, and doctor visits. He took over all household duties and even said with tears in his eyes he had to carry his wife to the bathroom. She was too weak to get out of bed.

My heart broke for this man, a devoted husband and father that had hoped to raise his family with a loving healthy wife at his side. Cancer had robbed this from him, their children, and his wife. He began to cry when he told me his wife was soon to die. All I could do was offer the comfort of a hug and the reassurance that The Time Is Now To Help would be there to help. I told him in the future that the utilities, food, rent, and car payments had to come before paying any medical bills.

We brought their utilities up to date and paid some for future use. We provided food and some much needed household necessities. Their car was about to be repossessed even though they only owed four more payments. The lenders would show them no mercy. We paid the remaining $800 balance off. We helped to ease the anxiety and stress this family felt during this most difficult passage in life, the loss of a loved one. Thank you to our supporters for providing the help necessary to ease their burden.

A month after the mother passed away I again contacted the father. He was still grieving but back at work. He reassured me they were going to be fine financially now. He said the children were trying to cope and they spoke openly about their mother and their grief. They were going to church now together as a family and had joined a support group there. He asked me to thank all of you for all we had done to help them during their darkest hours as a family. God bless all of you for caring and sharing, keeping "our" Time Is Now To Help focused on doing God's work.

Another big thank you to Bill and Lois McEssy. Bill McEssy, owner of several McDonald's restaurants held a New Year's Eve fundraiser to benefit The Time Is Now To Help. He gave 100 percent of all sales for his six local McDonald's, totaling a donation in the amount of $27,081.72 to help ease the pain and suffering of poverty for our fellow Americans. In the near future we will publish where every penny went to help the poverty stricken.

Please remember the Fox Charities $25,000 Matching Grant. Every dollar you donate will be matched by another, doubling you assistance for our poverty stricken fellow Americans. A Big Thank You to everyone for supporting The Time Is Now to Help. Together we make a big difference in the lives of our fellow creations.

Health and Happiness, God Bless Everyone, WC/Sal Dimiceli Sr.

Please Help: Make checks payable to: The Time Is Now To Help, P.O. Box 70, Pell Lake, WI 53157. The Time Is Now To Help is a federally recognized 501(c)3 charitable organization licensed in the states of Wisconsin and Illinois. You will receive a tax deductible, itemized thank you receipt showing exactly what every penny of your donation provided for the poverty stricken.

A Very Special Thank You: Bill & Lois McEssy/McDonald's, Fox Charities, Kunes' Country Auto Group, Clarence & Marilyn Schawk Family Foundation, Unilock, Paul Ziegler & the Ziegler Charitable Foundation, North South Foods Group, Dick & Jean Honeyager, Martin O'Brien, Geneva Lake Development Corp., Grunow Family Fund, Thelen Total Construction office employees Melody Fehling, Sue Williams, & Jim Gage in honor of Randy Thelen, Geneva Lake Development Corp., Grunow Family Fund, Barbara Bishop, Fred Zeller & Bette Popik, Judith & Scott McCue in honor of Clarence & Marilyn Schawk, Allan & Nancy Cody, The Brower Family, George & Leah Rozhon, Oldies But Goodies Red Hats, Janet Schmaling, Flexera Software, Howard Bryant, The Aldrich Family, John Barron, Peter & Janice Bose, Ralph Muller, Carroll Rands, Mike Halverson, Phillip Martin, Joan Murphy, Joan Rietz, Marlene Bancosky, Carol Hanke, Dean & Dawn Bernal, Bruce & Audrey Peterson, Robert & Barbara Mardak, Lou Verne Petrie, Margarie Egger, Harold & Ellen Kay Kruska, Liam & Raquel Brown, John Hegarty, Leslie Scheurer, Jacqueline Hilburn, Jim Bedford & Luci Reeve, Thomas & Paula Rocco, Hong Huynh, William & Ruth Rorig, Dale & Virginia Reed, Eileen Grzenia, Jack & Mary Lou McKinney, Richard Bone, Bryan & Sharon Dixon, W.C. Family Resource Center/Food Pantry volunteers, and all the God loving volunteers of all our caring food pantries, ALL of you who support The Time Is Now To Help donation boxes, and the businesses that allow our donation boxes. Anyone who would like a Time Is Now donation box in your business, please call (262) 249-7000.

Memorials: Walworth County Deputy Sheriff's Association in memory of Harvey Peck. Ruth Howard, Nancy Katzman, Arthur Kolb, David & Betty Hedgecock, Barbara Williams & the Hillmer's in memory of Harvey Peck.

We Desperately Need Cars: Please donate a used car to help our fellow American's get to work and other daily necessities.

Goodsearch for The Time Is Now: Search the web with www.goodsearch.com and help to raise funds for The Time Is Now to Help. Just make www.goodsearch.com your homepage and pick The Time Is Now to Help as your charity.

Please visit: www.timeisnowtohelp.org.

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