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Tragedy strikes woman

February 22, 2012 | 07:34 AM
Dear W.C.,

Could you please help me? I am living in a motel and about to be evicted. I have been struggling to live on my own. When my husband died unexpectedly I was not prepared. Whoever is prepared for such a tragedy? We had no savings due to my husband having been out of work before he died.

I believe the stress of trying to find a job is what gave him his heart attack. Everything he had been working so hard for his whole life, was lost. He was 58 years old and no one would hire him. We used all our savings and used my part-time job to pay for food and utilities.

While trying to cope with the shock of losing my husband I also lost the house and car. The bill collectors don't seem to care if you go hungry or live on the street, as long as they get paid. I do not have a phone but can be reached at the motel until the end of this week. Then I will be living on the street. I am so scared and have no one.

Dear Readers,

I knew the motel this woman was staying at. Many of our fellow Americans have been turning to motels for their housing when they do not have the funds for a security deposit and first month's rent. Many cannot obtain a lease due to bad credit or lack of a job. As a widow, assistance does not begin immediately and our struggling poverty stricken have to wait for an answer.

That is why The Time Is Now To Help, is now. Senior citizens, handicapped, single mothers with children, working poor, are usually forced to wait several months to find out if they fulfill all the criteria, before they receive any relief from their poverty. They live with fear, hunger, as social outcasts by those who do not understand the terrible dilemma of this recession.

This woman was living on the edge of homelessness, alone, and scared. When I arrived at the motel room I saw a woman looking out the window. When she looked at me I could see the hollow look in her eyes I often see. When she looked like she recognized me I almost saw a smile.

A second later the door opened and the woman who a moment ago looked like she didn't have a friend in the world, was now trying to force a smile while bursting into tears. I began to introduce myself and pull out my identification, but she said, "That is not necessary. I know who you are. I saw you on TV." I asked her if she would like to talk and she said she had been waiting for me as The Time Is Now To Help was her last hope. I assured her we were there to help.

We talked about her situation. The unexpected death of her husband from a heart attack. It was a lot to bear. She said she was still deeply grieving over the loss of her husband. They had been married for thirty years and been through a lot together. His last fight to keep his home was lost. He tried very hard to get a job. There were very few, but he was too old to compete with so many others looking for work. She told me his heart broke when they received their final foreclosure notice.

She told me, "My husband could not understand why our government was allowing all the jobs to go overseas. When he first worked he got a decent pay for his devoted work. After years went by we became the working poor, only earning wages that let us survive week to week." I understood exactly what she was talking about.

I have seen over the years the growing faults of our government trying to build a world economy, all while millions of Americans are forgotten, with no jobs, no rewards for an education, the government ignoring the death of the middle class, the sweeping aside of the elderly, the handicapped, the veterans, those that do not contribute to the world standards and taxes demanded by the government. I completely understood the bewilderment of this widow. Why after decades of working hard it took only a few weeks to become completely broken both financially and in spirit, nearly homeless, hungry, forgotten ... I felt her tears and pain.

We also talked about her housing assistance she had applied for. She had a long wait of numerous months so we made arrangements for her to rent an efficiency apartment at a very affordable rate. This would take a few weeks. She was still working part time and said she had applied for several full time jobs. She would hear in the next few days about a job she hoped she would get.

I asked where she had applied so we could put in a good word for her. I told her about The Time Is Now To Help and how you, the supporters make our help possible. I told her we would pay for her motel until her efficiency apartment was ready. She was so relieved she began to cry. She cried harder and harder and then in embarrassment said, "I don't know where this is all coming from. I feel so overwhelmed. I can't stop crying." I told her to just let it out. I was sure she had been holding in so much emotion from the many tragic turns in her life. After awhile I asked her about her transportation.

She told me to look out the window at her car. It was a dilapidated mess. She said she had purchased it for several hundred dollars after her last car was repossessed, just so she could get to work. She said it ran but the heat did not work and some days she had a hard time starting it. After a 10-minute look through the car I knew that she would be in need of reliable transportation as well. I noticed how thin she was and she admitted to not being able to eat properly. She said she did not have money for food and was eating mostly noodles and cereal. Most motels do not have refrigerators or appliances for cooking. This makes it difficult to eat a home cooked meal or even bring home food from the food pantry to cook.

We had just received a donated vehicle that was being gone over by Mike's Auto Repair. I told her it would be available the following day if she was interested. With that the tears started again. I smiled and told her, "I guess you weren't done letting it all out yet." She looked at me and began to smile through her tears.

Several days later I returned to the motel to see how her job search was going and how her car was running. This time I did not see a sad lonely face staring out the window. She excitedly told me she had a second interview for a job and was about to leave. She thanked us profusely for our help and was thrilled over the car. She was especially happy to have a reliable mode of transportation for her new job.

I wished her luck. As we both got in our cars I could see the happy smile on her face as she started the car provided by The Time Is Now To Help and drove away. I also knew she was going to get the job. I had already been contacted by the owner and he said he would love to help.

The next day she called and was thrilled to share the news she had got the job. Also her rental was confirmed and ready to move into. I knew with her new job she would be able to afford to support herself in this new rental. She would be able to cook for herself and there was a washer and dryer.

When she walked into her new rental she was surprised to see that The Time Is Now To Help volunteers had already set up a new bed, with bedding, and there were towels in the bathroom. When she opened the cabinets there were plates and silverware. She said she had sold or given away all her belongings when her house was foreclosed because she could not afford a storage unit to keep them in.

She walked around the small apartment looking at everything in its place, even food in the refrigerator and cabinets, as if she was walking around a grand castle. The look on her face let me know how much she appreciated having a place of her own after the stress of near homelessness and living in a motel for weeks. She went out to her car for a few boxes of belongings. She opened one of the boxes. She took out two framed photos and placed them on her counter. One was of her wedding, the other was a photo of her and her husband taken on their last anniversary prior to his passing. She looked at them and around her apartment and said, "Now it feels more like home."

Our many fellow Americans in need are thankful for your generosity, Caring and Sharing. Together we make a big difference in the lives of many. God Bless all of you for making all our good works possible.

Health & Happiness, God Bless Everyone, W.C./Sal

Please remember the Fox Charities $25,000 Matching Grant. We are over half way to our goal of $25,000. Please help us reach our goal. Every dollar you donate will be matched by another, doubling you assistance for our poverty stricken fellow Americans. A Big Thank You to everyone for supporting The Time Is Now To Help. Together we make a big difference in the lives of our fellow creations.

Please Help: Make checks payable to: The Time Is Now To Help, P.O. Box 70, Pell Lake, WI 53157. The Time Is Now To Help is a federally recognized 501(c)3 charitable organization licensed in the states of Wisconsin and Illinois. You will receive a tax deductible, itemized thank you receipt showing exactly what every penny of your donation provided for the poverty stricken.

A Very Special Thank You: Turner Broadcasting System, Bill & Lois McEssy/McDonald's, Fox Charities, Kunes' Country Auto Group, Clarence & Marilyn Schawk Family Foundation, Paul Ziegler & the Ziegler Charitable Foundation, Martin Business Group, Tom & Mary Johnson, Dick & Jean Honeyager, James & Marilyn Dyer, Martin O'Brien, Michael Glass, Milton & Carol Ann Ancevic, Lillian Rudolf, Ann Marie Dilla, Michael & Kathe Beach, Frank & Ann Huml, Francis & D.W. Corboy, Kenneth & Nova Kyburz, Sylvester & Virginina Seick, Brian & Sharon Dixon, Gerald & Marilyn Wilkin, Donald Lightfield, Lena Wynstra, Robert & Shirley Lipinski, Carolyn May Essel, Randall & Margaret Smith, Albert & Ellen Burnell, Margarie Egger, Kathryn Haber, Mary Ann Whitmore, David Thomason, Doug & Phoebe Watson, Victoria Wertz, Premier Real Estate Solutions, W.C. Family Resource Center/Food Pantry volunteers, and all the God loving volunteers of all our caring food pantries, ALL of you who support The Time Is Now To Help donation boxes, and the businesses that allow our donation boxes. Anyone who would like a Time Is Now donation box in your business, please call (262) 249-7000.

Memorials: Arlene Clausen in memory of Aunt Vera Kochnke. Julie Von Bergen in memory of her father Ralph Davis.

Gifts in Honor: The staff members of the Activity Department of Golden Years in honor of Lucille Coates in thanksgiving for her 30 years of dedicated service to the residents of Golden Years of Walworth.

We Desperately Need Cars: Please donate a used car to help our fellow American's get to work and other daily necessities.

Goodsearch for The Time Is Now: Search the web with www.goodsearch.com and help to raise funds for The Time Is Now To Help. Just make www.goodsearch.com your homepage and pick The Time Is Now To Help as your charity.

Please visit: www.timeisnowtohelp.org.


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