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May 22, 2012 | 03:10 PM
Dear W.C.,

I am writing to ask for help for my three children and myself. At the present time we are living in a motel, but will soon be living out of my car if I can't pay the rent on our motel room.

The problems started a year ago when I came to live in the area from out of state to help care for my dying sister. Her husband pleaded with me to come care for her part time with the promise that I could live in their home with my children. I gave up my job and apartment to move here.

I asked my sister if I could stay on in her house until I got a job again. She promised me she would make arrangements with her husband to provide for myself and my children. I cared for my sister for six months day and night. I was never able to get another job because that would mean she would be alone and uncared for. My brother in law was hardly ever there even when my sister asked for him. I was the one who sat with her when she took her final breath. This was the hardest thing I have ever had to do.

After my sister died her husband wasted no time at all trying to get us out of the house. Within a month he was bringing home different women every night and drinking. He would threaten me and the children. I reminded him of our arrangement and he laughed in my face. He said he never agreed to allow us to stay on.

It was a terrible environment for my children but we had nowhere to go. Finally one day when I got home from picking up my kids from school we found our belongings were sitting outside and he had changed the locks. He even left our little dog tied to the front porch.

We spent a few days living in my car because we had no money. I went through all my belongings and found some jewelry that belonged to my deceased mother. I pawned these out of desperation and was able to find a motel that would take all of us and a dog in one room for a month. In this time I have been desperately searching for a job but my car is unreliable. Would you be able to help my family with car repairs and shelter until I get a job?

Dear readers,

This recession has brought many fellow creations our way that are living in motels. Thank God they have a roof over their heads but it is not a long term solution. There are many different reasons for homelessness and families, children, senior citizens, and the handicapped living in motels. This letter shows a woman that thought she was doing what was right for her sister but lost all her independence and security in the process.

I knew the manager/owner of the motel and called them first. They proceeded to tell me about the woman and her children. They said, "She is a good mother, no drinking or smoking. Always worrying how she is going to provide for her children. She is always looking for a job."

My first stop was the single mother that wrote the letter asking for our help. I knocked on the door and heard children inside and what sounded like a small dog bark. The door was opened by a pre-teenage boy. As we spoke for a minute his mother came over to meet me as well. After I showed them my identification, I was introduced to all the children. The mother told the oldest boy to watch his siblings so we could go outside and talk. I could see she did not want to talk in front of the children. Children experience enough stress and confusion during a terrible, shocking eviction. As a child I experienced the pain often.

When we sat outside I could see tears in her eyes. I could see how desperate she was feeling and scared. The mother recapped the events of the last year that had brought her to this place. She said she had tried to contact her brother in law and an attorney but found she did not have any rights based on what her sister had said.

It was not on paper and there were no witnesses. Now she did not have the money to return to where she lived before. She called to see if she could get her previous job back, but the position was filled. She did not have money for a security deposit and first month's rent along with paying for the motel room, food, and gas.

We spoke about her job skills. I told her of a few places that might be able to offer the employment she was qualified for. We looked at her car and I saw immediately it was not worth even repairing. I assured her we would find safe transportation for her family. I told her we would pay for the next two weeks in the motel, and then after she gets a job we would help with the security deposit and first month's rent on a new place. She burst into tears. The tears became sobs of relief from the constant immediate concerns of being responsible for the safety and well-being of her children. We also supplied them with much needed food and toiletries.

The next day I called the mother in her motel room since she did not have a phone. I told her we had a car ready for her and one of our volunteers would be picking her up to take her to the DMV. She did not know the volunteer was bringing along food and necessities to drop off too.

The following day she began her job search in earnest with her reliable car. She was thrilled that one of the leads, along with a reference telephone call from The Time Is Now to Help, was willing to hire her immediately. The mother was finally able to put her energies into finding an apartment for her family. I provided her with some options there too since she was not very familiar with the area yet. The second apartment complex she visited was right in her budget. Once she was approved we provided the promised first month's rent and deposit.

When she went to move in the following week she was surprised to find beds and furniture already in place. There was also food in the refrigerator and cabinets, and toiletries in the bathroom. The beds had linens and towels were in the linen closet. The family went from room to room in disbelief and thankfulness. I told the mother and children how The Time Is Now to Help and its many supporters and volunteers, "together" we make a difference. The mother said, "Please thank all of them. We were lost. God bless everyone for giving us a new beginning."

God Bless all of you for helping our fellow creations by removing their pains of poverty. Your help is what makes The Time Is Now to Help so successful in our fight to end the suffering of poverty. Thank you for your caring and sharing for our fellow Americans in desperate need.

Health and Happiness, God Bless Everyone, W.C./Sal

Please Help: Make checks payable to: The Time Is Now to Help, P.O. Box 70, Pell Lake, WI 53157. The Time Is Now to Help is a federally recognized 501(c)3 charitable organization licensed in the states of Wisconsin and Illinois. You will receive a tax deductible, itemized thank you receipt showing exactly what every penny of your donation provided for the poverty stricken.

A Very Special Thank You: The Montei Foundation, CNN/Turner Broadcasting System, Mark and Natalie Reno, Germaine's Fashion and Bridal, Kunes' Country Auto Group, Dick and Jean Honeyager, Martin O'Brien, Dr. Mark and Cynthia Brower, Whiting Law Group, Kenneth and Nova Kyburz, Frank and Ann Huml, Jr., Pauline Leseberg, Safeguard, John Poiron, Harry and Phyllis Tiggemann, St. James United Methodist Church, Michael and Kathe Beach, Hurvey and June Haskins, Jr., Tyco Matching Gifts Program, Walter and Florence Strumpf, Sylvester and Virginina Seick, Sid and Patty Johnson, Albert and Ellen Burnell, Randall and Margaret Smith, Milton and Carol Ann Ancevic, Elena Heffner, W.C. Family Resource Center/Food Pantry volunteers, and all the God loving volunteers of all our caring food pantries, ALL of you who support The Time Is Now to Help donation boxes, and the businesses that allow our donation boxes. Anyone who would like a Time Is Now donation box in your business, please call (262)249-7000.

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Side-by-Side Fundraiser: Side-by-Side will be having a fundraiser dinner on Tuesday May 29th, the day after Labor Day, at Simple Restaurant, 525 Broad St., Lake Geneva. Servings are at 5, 6 and 7pm. $10 per adult. Member churches will be selling tickets next Sunday. There will be tickets available at the door as well.

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