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Promise to care for sister's children adds to burden

July 24, 2012 | 02:54 PM
Dear W.C.,

I am looking for help with my past due rent. I am a single mother raising two of my own children and my sister's two children as well.

My sister passed away last year after a long battle with cancer. I promised her I would care for her children and I have been doing my best to fulfill that promise. I receive very little in assistance for the two children. Their father has never been part of their lives. My ex-husband was paying child support until he lost his job and has now moved out of state.

I have had no contact or child support payments from him in three months. Without the child support I am not able to pay my rent and provide food, utilities, gas, and other necessities. I recently received my RN after many years of taking classes, juggling children and part-time jobs.

I am going back for my third interview at a local hospital and hope to finally secure a job that can support my family.

My main worry is being evicted or having our utilities disconnected before I even get a chance to prove myself. Can you please help my family to stay in our rental?

I am sure I will be able to provide for us going forward.

Dear Readers,

I contacted this wonderful mother/aunt to arrange a visit. She invited me over immediately as she said they were on the verge of eviction and she was beside herself with worry. I drove to the address she provided.

I arrived at an apartment complex. There were children playing in the yard when I drove up. The oldest walked up and asked if I was W.C. I introduced myself. The young man said his aunt was expecting me and walked me to the door.

I noticed he called his aunt "mom"when he shouted inside. The mother came hurrying to the door and after we introduced ourselves she told her nephew to watch the other children while we talked. He looked at me suspiciously and I noticed she had to reassure him it was OK.

She explained when he left the room that her nephew was very protective of her and worried about her all the time. He was still recovering from the loss of his mother a little over a year before and often felt insecure. Then with tears in her eyes she said, "The last thing these children need right now is to become homeless and to withstand even more change."

I told her The Time Is Now to Help was there to prevent that from happening. We talked about the loss of her sister and the promise she made to raise her children. She told me about her sisters long struggle with cancer. She shared photos of her sister and her obituary.

There were no financial arrangements made for the care of the children. The father had not ever paid child support or visited them since they were both infants. One day he walked out and was never heard from again.

She said the opposite of her ex-husband. He had been a big part of her children's life and always paid a fair child support. Then he had lost his job of seventeen years after the plant closed, and fell into a deep depression.

He had stopped showing up for visits and could not pay child support any longer. The mother said she had tried to talk with her ex-husband to help him through his depression but she said he was too ashamed to even face her.

She said then he stopped answering her texts and phone calls. She had spoke to his family and friends as she was very worried for his wellbeing. They all were worried as well. He had moved out of state away from everyone. She has not heard from him since.

We went over her budget. she showed me her education transcripts and a copy of her RN job application.

I knew the person in the HR department and gave them a call.

All they could tell me was, "Her opportunity to get a job looked very good." I was very proud of this hard working mother and her ability to continue her schooling to become an RN, work different part-time jobs to accommodate her schooling schedule, and care for four children. I knew this had not been an easy task, yet she had succeeded after many years of long hours of hard work. This is a part of what America is all about, have a dream, education, work hard, and be rewarded with a good job.

My main concern was helping this family get through their immediate financial struggle.

They were two months behind in rent. The mother had been using her part-time job to provide food and necessities, but it provided little else. Her utilities were also overdue. We brought her rent up to date and paid one month into the future. This would give her the time needed to secure her full-time job as a nurse. We also brought her utilities up to date and some into the future. We also supplied them with gift cards to purchase extra food, much needed toiletries, household necessities, and gas.

I asked the mother about the condition of her car and she looked embarrassed.

She said, "I can't ask. You've done so much for us already."

I told her about our car ministry and how we help people with maintaining a safe vehicle for work in order to maintain their employment. She said, "Well, let me show you what I am driving."

We went outside and looked at her car that had over 185,000 miles on it. It was in terrible condition and barely running. I asked how she expected to get to her new job each day with unreliable transportation.

She could not answer me. I told her she was being added to the Time Is Now to Help car list in order to get her a car. She started to cry, and shook her head saying, "I can't ask you to do that. I feel like we are taking too much already." I told her, "You didn't ask. We offered." With that she cried even harder. I explained how The Time Is Now to Help works. I told her about all of you making our mission to help possible. She said, "Please thank everyone for helping my children."

We helped this family through a tough financial crisis. They are now secure with the mothers new job and our assistance that prevented them from becoming homeless. The mother now has a safe, reliable car to drive to and from work. She and all the children were extremely grateful for our help. The mother's budget is now capable of supporting her family on her own. She said she will continue to keep her promise of raising her sisters children as her own.

Once again, together we make our world a better place doing God's good works.

Healthand Happiness, God Bless Everyone, W.C./Sal

Please Help: Make checks payable to: The Time Is Now to Help, P.O. Box 70, Pell Lake, WI 53157. The Time Is Now to Help is a federally recognized 501(c)3 charitable organization licensed in the states of Wisconsin and Illinois. You will receive a tax deductible, itemized thank you receipt showing exactly what every penny of your donation provided for the poverty stricken.

A Very Special Thank You: Markand Natalie Reno, Kunes' Country Auto Group, Dickand Jean Honeyager, Craig Wiser, Distributionand Transportation Service, Whiting Law Group, Illinois Tool Works Foundation, Thomas Nangle, Anthonyand Mary Hauet, Judith Jensen, Adele Disabato, Williamand Joan Spiegelhoff, Claudia Siesennop, Carolyn May Essel, Dennisand Carol Frederick, Harryand Phyllis Tiggemann, Sidand Patty Johnson, Dan Mehring, Robertand Sharon Seiser, Randalland Margaret Smith, Jackand Mary Lou Mc Kinney, Miltonand Carol Ann Ancevic, Beth Rendall, Michaeland Kathe Beach, Philipand Helen Joyce, Jamesand Phyllis Belzer, Frankand Diane Caldario, Kennethand Nova Kyburz, W.C. Family Resource Center/Food Pantry volunteers, and all the God loving volunteers of all our caring food pantries, ALL of you who support The Time Is Now to Help donation boxes, and the businesses that allow our donation boxes. Anyone who would like a Time Is Now donation box in your business, please call (262)249-7000.

Memorials: Marvin Herskoand Audrey Wunderlin-Hersko in memory of Donald Wunderlin and Barbara Hersko.

Stay Classy Awards: The Time Is Now to Help has been selected as a Top 5 Finalist in Hunger and Poverty Relief in the Midwest region for the 4th Annual CLASSY Awards! You can vote for The Time Is Now to Help by visiting www.classyawards.org/vote. You only need to vote once! Voting ends Thursday, July 26, 2012.

Side-by-Side Fundraiser: There will be a fundraiser dinner at Simple Restaurant on Tuesday, July 31, 2012. Seatings are at 5, 6, and 7 p.m. Tickets are $10 adults and $5 children under 8. Tickets are available at the door. Thank you to Side-by-Side for all they do to assist the poverty stricken in our community.

Chris Ann's Resale Shop: I will continue to ask Chris Ann's Resale shop for furniture and household necessities to help our poverty stricken fellow Americans. If you have anything you would like to donate to Chris's shop please call (262)348-9088. They are located at 406 Hwy. 120 North, Lake Geneva, WI, in the old Floor Store building across from the Shell gas station and Next Door Pub.We Desperately Need CarsP

lease donate a used car to help our fellow American's get to work and other daily necessities.

Goodsearch for The Time Is Now: Search the web with www.goodsearch.com and help to raise funds for The Time Is Now to Help. Just make www.goodsearch.com your homepage and pick The Time Is Now to Help as your charity.

Please visit: www.timeisnowtohelp.org


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