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'I am so scared...'

December 11, 2012 | 01:03 PM
Dear W.C.,

I care for my mother since she had a stroke eight months ago. I am an 18-years old and trying to finish high school while doing this. My mother is a single mom and did not have health insurance.

I have been applying for assistance. We cannot afford home medical care so I do all the bathing, physical therapy and feeding for my mom. The doctors say she will get better with time. It is so hard for me to go to school each day and leave her home. I know she is lying in bed waiting for me to help her to the bathroom and feed her while I am gone.

I have been missing a lot of school, but my mom is more important right now. She needs me. Our landlord is asking for our rent, and I have a utility bill that I cannot pay. I am so scared as I have never had to take on these responsibilities before. Can you please help me?

Dedicated daughter

Dear readers,

I have come across many people that are caregivers for family members. When children are required to care for parents, siblings or grandparents with physical disabilities these young caregivers often have to give up their education. Can you imagine trying to focus at school while worrying about the well-being of your loved one? This is such a mature and stressful role to take on.

I called this daughter to set up a time to visit. She sounded very mature as she arranged my visit. We planned on meeting the following day.

I arrived at the scheduled time and found the daughter waiting by the door. She explained she did not want to disrupt her mother's nap with a door bell or knock. After I introduced myself and showed identification she invited me inside.

We sat to talk in the apartments small living room area. The daughter had several bills there for me to look at and she had written down a list of expenses that had come to her attention since taking over as her mother's caretaker. After looking over her list it was easy to see they would not be able to continue on without some immediate assistance.

I asked the daughter about her education. She admitted to having missed a lot of school. I asked if I could provide several volunteers to check on the mother during the day. I saw tears in the daughters eyes as she admitted how much this would help her.

She said, "If I knew my Mom was cared for, not distressed due to me not being there to care for her, not hungry or worried about our bills, I would be so relieved."

We went over the daughter's daily schedule. I found her to be taking on much more than she had revealed in her first letter. I told the daughter about our caring and sharing mission and all the people that would love to help her.

She said, "I didn't know who to turn to. All my friends I had before don't even talk to me anymore. They don't understand my life now. I have had no one to talk to about this."

I assured her she would have caring and sharing people in her life to talk to now.

When the mother woke from her nap the daughter invited me to meet her. She needed help to sit up and the daughter helped her to the bathroom with the aid of a walker.

After that I spoke with the mother for a few minutes. She struggled to form her words. We talked about her progress and her wonderful daughter. The mothers face lit up when we talked about the daughter. She was distressed over feeling responsible for her daughter missing school and friends. The daughter jumped in to reassure her she was not responsible and she loved caring for her.

I asked the mother if she would like to meet a few volunteers that could come help while her daughter was in school. She was hesitant at first but when I explained how this would help the daughter continue in school she was excited for the idea. With that I called two volunteers I knew would be happy to help this mother and daughter.

After reviewing their budget we helped with their overdue rent and utility bill. I asked about other expenses. The daughter said their car was not running right but did not have the money to get it fixed. I had a volunteer over the following day to take a look at it and they dropped it off for service. Relief would happen as soon as the mother's disability check started. Another volunteer reviewed that status.

I spoke with the landlord and he agreed to reducing their rent in half until the disability checks began. With also half rent for the past due amount as well. The budget would be very close but they would make ends meet. Another volunteer helped them start the necessary paper work for additional assistance.

I stopped by a few weeks later to see how things were going. The daughter and mother were both very happy with the new arrangement. The relief of financial stress was evident as well. The daughter told me how their assistance was approved and this would help them to continue going forward. The car was now reliable and running well.

The volunteers had proved to be a Godsend for this mother and daughter. The daughter no longer had to worry about her mother while she was in school, thus allowing her to pay attention in school and study. The daughter even shared with me that caring for her mother gave her the inspiration to pursue nursing after high school. She was now able to have goals and dreams for her future. The mother continues to improve and now no longer needs assistance with some activities.

The assistance The Time Is Now to Help gave them was all they needed to get through an extremely difficult time in their lives. That is always our goal, to lift up our fellow creations when they need it most.

Together, we make our world a better place doing God's good works. Thank you for caring and sharing.

Health and Happiness,

God Bless Everyone,


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In honor of Dr. Charles Puntillo by Diane, Jackie, Leah, Karen, and Jodi.

Open Arms Free Clinic:

Will open on Dec 6 in Elkhorn, WI to address the wellness needs of the underserved, uninsured, low income population of Walworth County. Sixty volunteers make it possible for this free clinic to serve the community. In this season of holiday generosity, we hope that you will consider Open Arms Free Clinic, Inc. among your favorite charities. Your commitment and generosity will make progress at the free clinic possible. The need for free health care in our communities is great. Donations should be mailed to:

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