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A mother's last wishes are for her children



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March 12, 2013 | 02:26 PM
Dear W.C.,

I am writing this letter in hopes you receive it in time. I have been diagnosed with an incurable form of cancer. My doctor believes I only have a few months left to live.

The reason I am writing you is to see if you can help me and my two children move in with my mother out of state. I do not want my children to be caring for me as my health declines.

My mother and aunt have offered to care for me and raise my children. I lost my job several months ago and was in the process of looking for more work when my headaches became unbearable. I never expected the diagnosis I received.

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I do not have health insurance and already have mounting health bills. My rent is overdue, but my landlord has agreed to let me out of my lease early and keep my security deposit as payment if I can move in the next week.

My car is in need of repair before it can make the road trip to my mother's.

My children are already packing up our apartment. I have sold most of our belongings to purchase food and medications.

If you could help with the car repairs and maybe some gas it would make this last trip for me and my children possible. Please, I do not want to die and leave my children here all alone.

A praying desperate mother

Dear readers,

I guess you would think after all the letters written and received over the years I would be somewhat toughened up for emotional letters such as this.

Anyone that knows me knows I am not. I am easily brought to tears whenever I see one of our fellow creations in pain or suffering. I am often asked, "How can you do what you do?" My answer is, "How can I not?"

Who would help these people suffering in illness, poverty, hunger and pain if we were not there to step in and offer assistance?

I went to visit this mother and children at their apartment. I was shocked by how young the woman looked, even though I often encounter many young adults suffering with life threatening illness. Her two sons were in their early teens.

They invited me in to their apartment. I immediately noticed how empty the room was.

It seems the mother had sold quite a few belongings as I noticed indents in the carpet where furniture once was.

The mother noticed me observing her apartment and said, "I needed medications for me and food for my boys.

I will not be needing my furniture once I move in with my Mom."

The only thing I noticed with the mother was the rings under her eyes and how thin she was.

Other than that she did not look like she was terminally ill. The mother said she was only offered treatments that would prolong her life a few months, but they came with the risk of terrible side effects or even death from the medications.

She had declined these treatments as she did not want to spend her last few months with her children too sick to function.

She said she wanted to live each day fully in the moment with her children.

She said her good days were decreasing and bad days were increasing. The only treatment she was accepting was for pain management.

When the boys went to their room she talked about her wishes for now and after she was gone. She broke down crying, holding her hands over her eyes.

When she tried to talk she would start to tremble. I put my arm gently around her. I told her how strong her love for her children was for her to be so brave for them.

She softly said, "I must be strong for my boys." After a few more minutes of talking about the children, love, and God, she calmed down.

She asked questions regarding The Time Is Now to Help. I told her, as I always do, that our help is available thanks to all of "You". Together we would be there to help her.

She told me how the boy's father had not been part of their lives since they were young and never even paid his child support.

Her mother and aunt were willing to take on the responsibility. She asked if we would be able to help get her car repaired.

She hoped to give it to her mother when she moved so her mother would have reliable transportation.

I went outside to check her car and noted it was in good condition. It did need some repairs but should give the grandmother several years of service after these were completed.

Her phone rang, it was her mother. She explained how her mother called her often. She asked if I would say hello to her mother. I said, "I would love to."

Her mother told me she saw the CNN Heroes special showing The Time Is Now to Help and all the work we do.

She was excited to know we were there to help her daughter and grandchildren.

She started to cry, telling me how embarrassed she was not to be in a financial position to fix her car and help with the move.

She shared how she and her sister were ready to lovingly care for the daughter and raise the grandchildren. I told her the love and care they were going to give was priceless. She was crying very hard and asked me to stay on the phone with her until she calmed down.

She did not want to upset her daughter. We spoke for a few more minutes until she was calm enough to give the phone back to the daughter.

I went over their budget and what was needed to complete their move. I promised to get her car taken care of as soon as possible. I gave her several gas vouchers to cover her trip to the Grandmother's.

I asked what she planned on doing with her remaining belongings. She said most everything else they had would be sold or have to fit in the car. The mother began to cry when talking about the changes coming for her children.

She was distressed over having to move them so far away, change their school and friends, but her biggest worry was how they would handle the death of their mother.

She began to cry again.

I grasped her hands and asked her if she had openly spoken with her boys about what was happening to her.

She said she had tried to prepare them the best she could. She said they prayed about it together every day.

She said, "I feel real comfort when I pray." I asked her if she wanted to pray with me now. That brought a smile to her face and I could see the joy and comfort her faith gave her.

We prayed a powerful prayer that left both of us moved. We visited for several hours. The boys joined us and we had a great visit. I said goodbye with a promise for a volunteer to return with food and to pick up her car for service.

I went to see the mother and children the day before their move. I stopped by to say my goodbyes and see if there was anything else they needed.

The boys had the car all packed and the mother was resting on the only remaining piece of furniture, a mattress on the floor. I asked if she was ready for this move.

The mother stood up and said, "Oh yes, I'm all rested and ready to go." The mother was filled with gratitude for all we did to help her. She said she never would have been able to do this without our help.

She told me, "Please tell all of your Time Is Now to Help angels thank you and God Bless you."

The landlord had even returned her security deposit when I called him and told him about their desperate need.

I gave them all a hug goodbye and we all held hands for a final prayer. It is so hard to say goodbye to someone you know you will never see again. I have to give up these feelings to God or they would weigh heavy on my soul each and every day. The homeless mothers, hungry senior citizens, poverty stricken disabled and desperately ill, all, are in my thoughts and prayers every day.

Our help is desperately needed for those suffering in the pains of poverty.

I thank all of "you" for caring and sharing. Together we will continue our good works of compassion for our fellow creations. While some say the economy is improving there is still a long recovery for the millions of Americans that are still out of work and suffering in poverty.

Together we will continue to remove the pains and suffering of poverty.

Health and happiness, God bless everyone, W.C./Sal

Please help: Make checks payable to: The Time Is Now to Help, P.O. Box 70, Pell Lake, WI 53157. The Time Is Now to Help is a federally recognized 501(c)3 charitable organization licensed in the states of Wisconsin and Illinois. You will receive a tax deductible, itemized thank you receipt showing how your donation provided assistance for the poverty stricken.

Thank yous: The Summertime Foundation, Fox Charities, The Petco Foundation, Lake Geneva Petco, Kunes' Country Auto Group, ITW Foundation, Katie Alder, Dick and Jean Honeyager, Lake Geneva Lioness Club, Michael Glass, John and Violet Hotzfield, James and Aartje Yakes, Arlene Torrenga, John and Sally Dicmas, James and Marilyn Dyer, William and Maureen Slater, William and Jean Isaacson, Jennifer Olomon, Jackie Hennerley, Robert and Shirley Lipinski, Peggy Cardiff, Gerald and Joyce Byers, Ann Marie Dilla, Dennis and Sandra Hammer in honor of Ann Dilla, Carl and Shirley Jacobsen in honor of Bill and Carol Perkins 50th Wedding Anniversary, W.C. Family Resource Center/Food Pantry volunteers, and all the God loving volunteers of all our caring food pantries, all of you who support The Time Is Now to Help donation boxes, and the businesses that allow our donation boxes. Anyone who would like a Time Is Now donation box in your business, please call (262) 249-7000.

Memorials: Melita Grunow in memory of her husband Bill Grunow. Val Liechty in memory of her brother Bill Grunow.

Chris Ann's Resale Shop: I will continue to ask Chris Ann's Resale shop for furniture and household necessities to help our poverty stricken fellow Americans. If you have anything you would like to donate please call (262) 348-9088. They are located at 406 Highway 120 North, Lake Geneva, in the old Floor Store building across from the Shell gas station and Next Door Pub. Look for the American flags.

We desperately need cars. Please donate a used car to help our fellow Americans get to work and other daily necessities.

Please visit: www.timeisnowtohelp.org.

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