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Father's plight becomes family tragedy



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May 21, 2013 | 12:47 PM
Dear W.C.,

My husband suffered from an aneurysm over a year ago.

He is lucky to be alive. It will be a long road of recovery for him. We have a 12-year-old son that has been through a lot in this past year. He is trying to come to terms with his father being in a wheelchair and unable to care for himself most of the time.

Before my husband had the aneurysm I was working part time and he was working full time. I have had to give up my job to care for him and he may never be able to work again.

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We lost our house and one of our cars. The car we were able to keep was my mother's car that she left to me when she died over five years ago. I was not able to keep up with the payments on the newer car. We have been waiting for housing assistance but have not received any yet.

I have heard hurtful comments about people using the welfare system and false disability claims. Those people should spend a day in our apartment, caring for my husband who is trying to relearn how to speak, feed himself and use the bathroom on his own. They should see how it feels to not have enough food or knowing on weekends and summer vacation your child will be counting on you for more food.

Thanks to the breakfast and lunch program at school I do not have to worry whether my son has enough to eat during the week. I never would have thought we would be in need of this kind of assistance.

— Care Giving Wife

Dear Readers,

There is an ongoing battle over health care and welfare in our country. There are many lives that will be affected by these reforms. I am not going into that debate in this column, but I will share what I observe when I visit our fellow Americans struggling with illness and disabilities that lost everything due to no health insurance.

Visiting this family, seeing the devoted wife lovingly caring for her husband stricken in his prime of life by an unforeseen medical emergency, I observed their near empty refrigerator and cupboards. The wife/mother described their heartbreak of surviving one day at a time as their daily reality. It is not like the man could force himself out of his wheelchair and go get a job. He could not even speak more than a few words, and those took great effort.

This family was just like every other American family we may see at the grocery store or walking in town. They liked to go places and do things together on the weekends. They both worked, had a home, two cars, but they did not have health insurance. They had a small savings that was wiped out in a few months of trying to pay the mortgage, car payment and medical bills. When they lost both their home and car they moved into an apartment they thought they could afford. But the extra medical needs of the husband made it hard for them to keep up with the utilities over the winter.

Thanks to all of your compassion we were able to bring their utilities and rent up to date, provide food and toiletries, and have their car repaired. Our volunteers also picked up a few things for their son as it had been his birthday the previous week. They had not been able to afford a celebration. They thoughtfully picked up a birthday cake, candles and a few gifts for the young man. The son was very happy and grateful for being included in our caring and sharing.

When this family came to us for help they were lost in the pains of poverty; not enough food, a failing car, an unattainable budget falling behind daily. All this while in the midst of a family disaster of failing health. I'm sure the daily stress the father/husband was exposed to, watching his family suffering in poverty, hindered his ability to recover.

Together, thanks to all of you, we provided: good food, repaired their car to make it safe and reliable, we gave direction for programs such as home care, and to get proper disability assistance. The love of the son was turned into helping care for the father he loved. This allowed the mother to regain a part-time job. Most importantly all of our prayers, caring, sharing, love and compassion for what we do, gave the husband/father the encouragement he needed to continue to recover. Today his speech is fluent. He gets stronger week by week. The love of this family, as the wife said, "Is stronger than ever." Once again, during my visits I explained how we all come together and make a difference for our fellow creations. At my last visit, the husband/father happily cried tears of relief as he said, "Please, please thank everyone for saving my family."

My dear friends, I thank God for all of you coming together, allowing all of us to do God's works of love for our fellow creations. God bless everyone.

Together we do good works, as we continue to remove the pains of poverty for those in desperate need. Together we restore hope and faith in the goodness of creation.

Health and happiness,

God bless everyone,

W.C./Sal

Please help:

Presently, the Fox Charities have stepped up to offer a $25,000 matching grant. Every dollar you donate will be matched by another, doubling your help to those in need, removing their pains of poverty. Please help our fellow creations.

Please Note We Have A New Mailing Address:

Make checks payable to:

The Time Is Now to Help

P.O. Box 1, Lake Geneva, WI 53147

The Time Is Now to Help is a federally recognized 501(c)3 charitable organization licensed in the states of Wisconsin and Illinois. You will receive a tax deductible, itemized thank you receipt showing how your donation provided assistance for the poverty stricken.

A very special thank you

The Summertime Foundation, Fox Charities, Dick and Jean Honeyager, Mark and Natalie Reno, Kunes' Country Auto Group, Paul Ziegler/Ziegler Charitable Foundation, Lake Geneva Area Realty, Petco Foundation, Martin Business Group, John, Rita and Emily Stensland, ITW Foundation, Abbott Laboratories Employee Giving, Robert and Heidi Manak, Patricia Jankowski, Sid and Patty Johnson, Lauren Grady, Doris Reinke, Sylvester and Virginina Seick, Louise and Clifford Morris, John and Virginia Sullivan, Donald Lightfield, Milton and Carol Ann Ancevic, Gerald and Joyce Byers, George and Lauretta Clettenberg, Susan Teas, Michael and Sally Anne Chier, Victoria Wertz, W.C. Family Resource Center/Food Pantry volunteers, and all the God-loving volunteers of all our caring food pantries, all of you who support The Time Is Now to Help donation boxes, and the businesses that allow our donation boxes.

Anyone who would like a Time Is Now donation box in your business, please call (262) 249-7000.

Memorials

Carol May, family and friends in memory of Robert H. May.

Chris Ann's Resale Shop

I will continue to ask Chris Ann's Resale shop for furniture and household necessities to help our poverty stricken fellow Americans.

If you have anything you would like to donate please call (262) 348-9088. They are located at 406 Hwy. 120 North, Lake Geneva, in the old Floor Store building across from the Next Door Pub. Look for the American flags.

Desperately need cars

Please donate a used car to help our fellow Americans get to work and other daily necessities.

Please visit

www.timeisnowtohelp.org.

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