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November 12, 2013 | 03:13 PM
Dear W.C.,

My 4-year-old son and I moved to the area a few months ago. We came here to get away from a bad family situation.

We were living with my abusive alcoholic parents. I had my son when I was only 16. I was physically and sexually assaulted by an alcoholic friend of my alcoholic parents and became pregnant.

I told my parents, but they were in drunken denial. I told my teacher. School was the only place I felt safe. I loved school. My teacher called the authorities and the abusive friend of my parents was arrested. The authorities also visited my parents several times.

I have tried to get away from their lifestyle for years but never had the means to get away. I finished high school with the help of a local church group I could trust to watch my son.

The brother of the man who raped me threatened me and my son’s life for coming forward and sending his brother to jail. You hear about India and other countries abuse of women, while here in our country we have to rely on restraining orders that have little effect on the abusive men that prey on women.

I went to the local church, and they helped me find a place to stay and referred me to an organization for abused women.

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Eventually that group put me on a bus with my son and sent us to Wisconsin. I have been staying in a motel.

The group that sent me here has helped me find a job and childcare. I do not earn much and I will never have enough to save for a security deposit to get our own place. The organization told me to contact you for help with my situation.

I feel like a huge weight has been lifted just getting away from the constant fear of abuse, the drinking, cruelty and worrying about the safety of my son and myself.

Can you please help us to have a new life here in Wisconsin?

Young mother

Dear readers,

This young woman had many setbacks in her life yet was strong enough to fight to overcome them.

Her strong will to make a better life for herself and her son was evident from our first meeting. I met the young mother in a public area within walking distance of her motel. Before we met I had spoken with the referring organization from out-of-state to confirm her story. The referring organization had shared with me that the parents and the brother of the friend had both been looking for her at the church.

Somehow they had heard about the church, where she went when they threw her out. The church leader had contacted the police to have them removed from the premises.

The police again arrested the father for driving under the influence for the eighth time.

The organization shared with me they had not disclosed her new location. They thanked us for continuing her assistance and they felt she was very deserving of our special caring and sharing.

The young mother talked about her past. I could see the pain it caused her to speak about it. She looked at her son playing on the swings and said, “The only blessing I have had in my life is that little boy over there.

I did not choose to have a child when I was just a kid myself, but I will do what I can to give him the home I never had.”

We talked about her goals and future plans. The church group had told me she had graduated with high honors despite her terrible home life.

She shared with me how school and church were her islands of light and love in her life that was all too often full of extreme cruelty and abuse from her alcoholic parents.

We talked about her favorite subjects in school. She said, “I loved all of them. If I had to pick a few I would say math and business classes.”

I could see the mother was going to need a better job to support her child and herself. I contacted a friend that is a business owner that had a job opening.

He was willing to let her apply for the job and felt she had a good chance of being hired.

When I spoke with the young mother I could see she was smart and well spoken. It saddened me to think that she spent her teenage years living in fear and abuse.

The young mother seemed to know what I was thinking and said, “Do not feel sorry for me or get angry over this. I have moved past it. It is like it was someone else those terrible things happened to, not me. I had to get away from it before it affected my son. He saw how my own parents treated me, like a slave. I never want to see those people again. I cannot ever go back. I am going to church now, and I am making a new life. Please help me to do that.”

In a few days she had her new job.

In a few more weeks, the employer was excited to report her outstanding performance.

We helped the mother get a reasonable apartment and paid their security deposit and first month’s rent. We provided food, clothing and toiletries.

When she moved into the apartment I was happy to share with her recently donated furniture: couch, table, chairs, end tables, lamps. We also supplied two new mattresses and box springs.

The mother and son were grateful for our assistance.

The mother said with tears in her eyes, “We could never have done this without The Time Is Now to Help.

We have never been so happy in our lives. We finally have our own little apartment, filled with love. No fear or pain.”

I told her about how all of you made this help possible, how all of you make The Time Is Now to Help a charity that cares.

She was crying when she said, “I never knew so many people in this world would ever care about what happened to me and my son. If I had known that I would never have endured all those years.” I hugged her and her son, with my own tears in my eyes, and told her, “I wish we had known. We would never have let you endure that pain.”

God bless all of you for your support that allows us to continue our mission of God’s works. I can honestly say that all of you give us the endurance to continue. Together, may God bring those in desperate need to our path.

Please help, The Summertime Foundation $10,000 Matching Grant will match your donation dollar for dollar, doubling your assistance to the poverty stricken.

Thank you for caring and sharing. We have so many requests for assistance. Those in desperate need, need us to continue our mission.

Health and Happiness,

God bless everyone,

W.C./Sal

Mailing Address

Make checks payable to:

The Time Is Now to Help

P.O. Box 1

Lake Geneva, WI 53147

The Time Is Now to Help is a federally recognized 501(c)3 charitable organization licensed in the states of Wisconsin and Illinois. You will receive a tax deductible, itemized thank you receipt showing how your donation provided assistance for the poverty stricken.

Geneva Inn fundraiser

Please join us this Friday, Nov. 15 at the beautiful Geneva Inn, Grandview Dining Room for a dinner benefiting The Time Is Now to Help. There are many wonderful silent auction items to bid on, and half of your meal expense will be donated to The Time Is Now to Help to provide assistance to the poverty stricken.

Please call (262) 248-5690 to make your reservation for dinner any time between 5 and 9 p.m. Please state you are coming for The Time Is Now to Help benefit.

Join us for an hour or two, or however long you desire. Raffle and silent auction winners need not be present to win. Upon filling the dining room with caring donors

The Geneva Inn will give an additional $5,000 donation to The Time Is Now. Please help us fill the dining room.

Sal will be present the entire evening to share some of the good works we have been doing.

The Geneva Inn is at N2009 S. Lake Shore Drive, Lake Geneva.

Call (262) 248-5690 to make your reservation.

Thank you

The Summertime Foundation, Fox Charities, Matt Stracner, Lake Geneva Area Realty, Meridian Group, Inc., Martin Group, John Stensland and Family, Mark and Julia Kiehl, Dorothy Heffernan, Ray and Pam Ring, Aurora Health Care Partnership Campaign, Judith Mackessy, Rebecca Hanson, Gene Krauklis, Shannon Hahn, Mary Cucchi, Jeanne Mc Donald, Shawna Kneipper, Heidi Hall, Michael Glass, John and Joyce Kirkwood, Sylvester and Virginina Seick, Walter and Florence Strumpf, John and Constance Decker, Ronald and Carolyn Bloch, Robert Nordhaus and Marcie Hollmann, James Borden, Carl and Estrid Sanders, Jack and Barbara Rowe, Barbara and Lee Zuzanek, John Poiron, Michael and Kathe Beach, Louise and Clifford Morris, Dan and Regina Mehring, Donald Lightfield, W.C. Family Resource Center/Food Pantry volunteers, and all the God-loving volunteers of all our caring pantries, all of you who support The Time Is Now to Help donation boxes and the businesses that allow our donation boxes.

Anyone who would like a Time Is Now donation box in your business, please call (262) 249-7000.

Memorials

Jacquelyn Leedle in loving memory of George Leedle. Margaret Cardiff in loving memory of her mother Dot Cardiff. Mrs. Jane Nunemaker in memory of Jack Fogle. Dick and Marcy Calkins in memory of Mary Picchietti.

Holiday wine tasting

Bring your friends and come join us at Lake Geneva Country Meats for a Holiday Wine Tasting on Friday, Nov. 22 from 5:30-7:30 p.m. This is an evening of sampling wines, snacking on light hors d’oeuvres, and discovering holiday entertaining tips from LGCM.

There will be a wide selection of wines open for you to sample and all are available to purchase at discounted prices. Enjoy scheduled live entertainment by the Badger High School Jazz Combo.

Tickets are only $15, and half of the ticket price will be donated to The Time Is Now to Help if you choose our charity when you purchase your ticket at www.lakegenevacountrymeats.com/events. LGCM is at 5907 Route 50 East, Lake Geneva.

Call (262) 248-3339 for more information.

Furniture donations

Contact Love Inc. for all your furniture, clothing and household item donations.

Call (262) 763-2743 or (262) 763-6226 to schedule pickup.

We are no longer affiliated with Chris Ann’s Resale Shop.

Please visit

www.timeisnowtohelp.org

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