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Coming back to help after five years

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November 25, 2013 | 12:51 PM
Dear W.C.,

I am very grateful for the help The Time Is Now to Help gave my son years ago when he was so sick from his cancer treatments.

The Time Is Now to Help was there to help his wife and children when they could no longer pay their bills and after his death. He did not have health insurance so his family was overwhelmed financially.

You were a godsend to him and his family during such a terrible time. I thank The Time Is Now to Help for all you did for him. He was my only child. It has been the worst time of my life losing him.

Now I find myself in need of your assistance. Since his death, I have had several financial challenges myself.

Now I find myself unable to pay my rent. I have no one else to turn to.

Scared senior

Dear readers,

I remembered this family we helped over five years ago. It was very tragic to see a man with so much to live for, two children, a loving wife and a loving mother, stricken with such a terrible disease. He tried to fight but lost his battle.

Now, five years later, I receive a letter from his mother in need of help. I remembered how kind she was and how griefstricken she was when she lost her only child. It was a family you do not easily forget. I called the mother and set up a time to visit.

The mother was living in a small old apartment building. She was waiting anxiously for my arrival and invited me right in with a hug. She was much more frail than the last time I had seen her. The years of grief had taken a toll. She began to cry, thanking us again for being there for her son and his family. I held her as she cried and tried to console the grief she still felt.

After a few minutes she collected herself and said, “Goodness, look at me already crying. You barely got in the door.” I silently prayed for her, asking the Lord to strengthen her.

We sat down to talk and she filled me in on all that had happened in her life since her son passed away five years previous. She had suffered with first pneumonia that required a hospitalization and then a bad fall last summer that fractured her hip.

She had a few bills on a table in front of her. There was a car repair, late rent notice and an overdue utility bill. I could see her finances had spun out of control in the last few months. She looked ashamed as I asked to see them, saying, “I don’t know how this happened. My medical bills took all I had.”

We went over her budget. If she had some savings to get her through this time in her life she would not be in this position. I could not criticize her for helping her daughter-in-law and grandchildren when they had suffered such a loss.

I asked about the daughter-in-law and grandchildren. She said they had moved several years ago to be closer to her parents. The grandmother told me how she had recently written and shared she had a nursing career now and the children were in high school.

I asked if she had written back. She said she had not because she did not want to distress her about her present problems. I suggested she share with her daughter-in-law what she was going through and let her decide if she wants to continue communicating.

After talking for over an hour we had a budget worked out for the future. We would need to pay her overdue rent and utilities to bring her budget into balance. We helped with some food. If any necessities come up, like a need for new glasses, a prescription, a car repair, anything not in her budget, she would be in trouble again.

I knew more had to be done. I asked if I could call her daughter-in-law to say hello. She gave me her phone number.

The next day I talked to the daughter-in-law. She was very happy to hear from us.

She asked about The Time Is Now. She said, “All of you at The Time Is Now to Help were a godsend during such a painful time.”

When I brought up the mother-in-law she told me she wanted her to move in with them a year ago, but the mother-in-law told her she did not want to be a burden. We came up with a solution. A week later the mother-in-law called to share the news. Her daughter-in-law had not only written to her, she had also sent some funds and a plane ticket.

The daughter-in-law said in the letter, “I always felt so guilty about leaving you there all alone. I was so overwhelmed with my own grief at the time that I did not know how to help you in yours. I was not in a place to help you financially or mentally at the time. Now that I am stronger, I am offering you the same love and kindness you gave to me and the children when your son, my husband, left this world. I know in my heart he would want me to help you. Do you think you could come for a visit and see if you like it here? We would love to have Grandma back with us. My job has many long days and it would be great to have you here when the kids are home. Please say yes!” She was crying as she finished reading. I knew in her heart it was what she had always wanted.

The next month she was on the plane. She returned once to clean out her apartment and settle affairs in Wisconsin. She is now happily living with the daughter-in-law and grandchildren. Thanks to all of your support she was given the assistance needed to get back on budget and prevent her eviction. Thanks to God’s grace she was reunited with her family.

We wish all of you a Happy Thanksgiving filled with the blessings of family, health, good food and love. Together we will continue to remove the pains of poverty, hunger, loneliness, fear, homelessness, by doing God’s good works.

Health and happiness,

God bless everyone,


Mailing address

Make checks payable to

The Time Is Now to Help

P.O. Box 1

Lake Geneva, WI 53147

The Time Is Now to Help is a federally recognized 501(c)3 charitable organization licensed in the states of Wisconsin and Illinois. You will receive a tax deductible, itemized thank you receipt showing how your donation provided assistance for the poverty stricken.

Fox Charities matching grant

My dear friends, let us continue together helping our fellow creations in desperate need.

Fox Charities has once again graciously stepped up to match your donation dollar for dollar, doubling your help to those in need.

Please take advantage of this opportunity to double your caring and sharing. Together we make a big difference in the lives of those suffering in poverty.

A very special thank you

The Summertime Foundation, Fox Charities, Clarence and Marilyn Schawk, The Geneva Inn, Susan Lorr, Maia Wilson, Rick Bialk, Jen Danna, Carrie Hill, Jackie Davis, Christine Rathbone, Matt Stracner, Lake Geneva Area Realty, Meridian Group, Inc., Martin Group, John Stensland and Family, Dorothy Heffernan, Mary Kay Ring, Bartz Chiropractic, Abbey Springs, American Classic Rides, Bruno’s Liquors, Chinawest Jewelers, Clay Connection Studio, Constant Cravings, Cornerstone Shoppe, Create My Time, Dancing Horse’s Theatre, Delaney Street Merchantile, Diane Lewis Pianist and Vocalist, Dunn Lumber/True Value Hardware, Element Massage, Galena Garlic, Geneva Gifts, Geneva Inn, Geneva Lake Brewing, Geneva Lake’s Carpet Cleaning, Geneva National, Gilbertson’s Stained Glass, Green With Envy, Harley Davidson Lake Geneva, Hawk’s View Golf Club, Iced Out Chicks, Karly’s Window and Gutter Cleaning, Kilwin’s, Kune’s Country Auto Group, Lake Geneva Cruise Line/Gage Marine, Lake Geneva Ultimate Car Wash, Lakeside Painting, Leather Accents, Lilypots, Lola’s, Martin Group, Morgans and Co. Fine Framing/Kelly Hayes, Overland Sheepskin, Paper Dolls Home Furnishings, Pesche’s Floral, Pop More Corks, Saza’s Accessories, Strawberry Fields, Studio Winery, The Bootery, The Tattered Butterfly, Treasure Hut Florist, Tuscan, Verve Art Gallery and Wags 2 Whiskers Pet Sitting, Melissa Lorman, Shirley Baumeister, Sunshine Gardeners, Barbara Kufalk, Steve Thornton, James and Janet Jurik, Milton and Carol Ann Ancevic, Michael and Phyllis Patek, Michael and Sally Anne Chier, Daniel Stolgren, Charlotte Millard, James and Jean Knavel, Lawrence and Linda Schultz, Pat and Steve Werner, Joseph and Karen Cerniglia, W.C. Family Resource Center/Food Pantry volunteers, and all the God loving volunteers of all our caring pantries, all of you who support The Time Is Now to Help donation boxes, and the businesses that allow our donation boxes.

Anyone who would like a Time Is Now donation box in your business, please call (262) 249-7000.


Charles and Patricia Phinisee in memory of two terrific people: Andy Takaya and Bob Sanders. Clifford and Marilyn Snudden in memory of June Haase Wilke.

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