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October 09, 2012 | 04:53 PMYou wonder why everyone is acting so normal.
You drive to work and there are other people driving to work who don't seem to care.
Store owners are getting ready for the day. Someone is jogging. Someone else is honking at someone who didn't notice the light is green.
The lake sparkles just as it did the last time you passed it, but it doesn't look quite the same.
A foggy barrier has come between you and the water, between the rest of the world and you.
When you go through personal challenges, things don't look or feel quite the same for a while. And you wonder why the whole world isn't hurting like you are.
My daughter and her boyfriend were beat up and robbed the other day.
Physically, they should be OK over time. Emotionally, there will no doubt be scars.
When you start life all over again, the day after, you look around and know there's an outside world and an inside world. There are people having a good day or at least a normal one, and there are others who have faced dragons and lost.
It's a good time to remember that the sides will be switched one day.
You will have those days where you're part of that multitude outside that goes on about their business. You'll be driving to work oblivious to what the person in the car in front of you has gone through the night before.
You will have days you'll see clearly the sparkle, where everything seems in place, where it's all about you and yours and the perfection of existence. Those are good days and worth savoring and perpetuating.
But there's a Buddhist concept that tragedy can harden your heart or soften it. If you remember your hurt is shared by others on other days, you have made something good of whatever happened.
It should remind you of the commonality that makes us all victors and victims at different times.
Such events in your life should help you stop and listen with new ears the next time a friend wants to talk, keep an open mind when someone is upset and you don't get it, maintain patience when someone doesn't notice that the light is green.
They may be having a day when the rest of the world is acting like nothing happened.
And it's worth remembering that you've had days like that, too.
Halverson is editor and general manager of the Lake Geneva Regional News.