The Time is Now to Help
Not enough space for combined family
September 08, 2010 | 07:50 AM
I am raising my sister's three children along with my own two children. Her husband, my brother in law and the father of the three children, has been sent to prison for several charges. My sister has fallen into drugs and drinking. She was neglecting her children so I stepped in to take custody. I am raising them and loving them as my own.
The problem I am having is financially. I am in the process of applying for assistance with food and medical for the children. I am driving an older, unreliable car that is not big enough to fit all the children in safely. I really need help obtaining a larger vehicle. I also need help with food and clothing. I have been to the food pantry but we still do not seem to have enough food. I have a job but due to additional child care costs I have fallen behind.
I am renting a two bedroom apartment that is not approved for the amount of people we have living here. My landlord has already sent me notice due to the amount of children living in my apartment. I told him it was just temporary because I truly believed at the time it was a very temporary situation. Now it looks like these wonderful children will be with me for a long, long time. I truly love them. They are good kids. They really need to feel safe and stable.
I found the apartment of the writer of this letter in an apartment building that has very reasonable rental rates. I paused for a moment outside the door to listen to the lively conversation of the children inside. I did not hear raised voices or a blaring television or stereo. I knocked on the door and it was answered in a second. A woman younger than I expected answered the door. After I introduced myself and showed identification she graciously invited me inside.
I was greeted by five children of various ages all sitting around a board game. They all politely said hello as I was introduced. Two of the children were obviously too young to play the board game but the older children were letting them pretend they were playing along. It was nice to see the positive interaction between the children. The mother/aunt asked me to speak in the kitchen out of their hearing range.
We sat at a table I knew was too small to fit the whole family. She seemed to know what I was thinking and said she was raising her two children on her own and had only needed a small table until several months ago. She told me the story of her sister's decline. My goal in these instances is to assist the children as well as we can. They have not chosen this path in life. They need every opportunity to live a healthy productive life.
That is what this mother/aunt wanted to offer them. She was giving them love and guidance. She was making sure they had food to eat, even to the point of eating less herself. She was making sure they were clean, they were going to school, and giving them direction and stability. It was not an easy task for a single mother to do but from what I had seen so far, on my unplanned visit, she was doing a good job.
We went over her budget, lease, and assistance she had applied for. I offered to trade her car for a minivan that had recently been donated. She was very willing to pass her older car on to someone else in need. It needed some repairs but we would have these completed before passing it on. She told me of a larger apartment in the same complex available for rent. When her assistance for the children begins she would be able to afford the larger apartment. It was not that much more expensive, but would offer one more bedroom and bathroom.
This way she could put the girls in one room and the boys in the other. The youngest child was sleeping on a toddler bed in her room due to her night terrors she was going through. The children were going to counseling and receiving the help they needed to recover from the neglect and verbal abuse they had received for years.
I called her employer and told her about the situation. The employer was very empathetic and said the woman was a very good, reliable employee. At the conclusion of our conversation the employer gave her a 20-percent raise. The mother/aunt cried with gratitude over her employer's willingness to help and recognition of her hard work.
We helped this woman and children with immediate food assistance. We paid her late rent and first month rent for the larger apartment. I talked to the landlord and explained her situation. He agreed to let her move to the larger apartment and also reduced the rate as well. He was a good Christian man with a caring and sharing heart. When we traded the van for the car we included some gas gift cards and certificates for school supplies and clothing as well. They were all overjoyed with the help we offered them.
When we spoke again several weeks later, they were moved into the larger apartment and much happier with the extra space they so badly needed. The van was working much better for them. They could all fit in it at one time for trips to the doctor, school, grocery shopping, etc. I felt good knowing these very deserving children were getting the help they needed. The mother and children recognized our help with individual letters; all delivered by the mother with tearful eyes. Thank you for your Caring and Sharing. Together we make a tremendous difference, giving hope, compassion, and sustenance to our fellow creations.
Health & Happiness, God Bless Everyone, W.C.
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