The Time is Now to Help
Child's death devastates family
September 15, 2010 | 08:16 AM
My heart is broken as I turn to you for help. I recently lost my only child to cancer. My daughter battled this horrible disease for five years. We did everything possible to beat the cancer and keep my daughter comfortable. The only help I have is my own mother. She held my hand and comforted my daughter as she bravely went through each treatment. We have been through a lot together.
The reason I am asking for help is my mother and I are about to become homeless. We have shared an apartment together for the last few years to care for my daughter. I have tried to keep my job throughout all this but the last year of my daughter's life was very trying both physically and psychologically. I had to leave my job in order to care for my daughter. I could see it was becoming too hard on my mom as well. The health insurance I had would not cover many of the costs my daughter's illness incurred. This left me with debt that consumed everything. I have already lost my car.
My mother and I go to the food pantry in order to eat. Our electricity has been off for several months. It has been very hard on my mother to live without air-conditioning, a refrigerator, or even a microwave. Our apartment is unnaturally silent without my daughter's voice and the hum of appliances. It is often too much for us to bear so we walk everywhere just to get away from the empty silence.
I cry everyday for my little girl until I collapse at the end of the day. I know I have a long way to go until I feel life in my heart. It may never happen. I do know I need to get back to work. I need to take care of my mom. I am in need of a car to get to job interviews. We also need help with our delinquent rent. Thank you for your time in reading my letter. I know you must be very busy now with so many people out of work. God bless The Time Is Now charity for the many people all of you have helped.
I can think of nothing more painful than the loss of a child. When I first began The Time Is Now To Help one of my first encounters with this tragedy was attending a funeral for a child of a homeless woman. The pain and agony of that woman's life was written all over her face. The only comfort I could offer her was a hug, prayers, assistance in finding suitable shelter, and a network of people who understood the same pain.
This mother's pain, and every other parent I have spoken to that have lost a child, was evident in her eyes and spirit. She seemed defeated by life. I knew I would have to lift her spirits as well as her risk of being another homeless casualty.
I arrived at the apartment and knocked on the door. It was answered by a woman who appeared to be in her late seventies. After we spoke for a few minutes she invited me in. She said she had been waiting for me to come. When I asked her how she knew this she answered, "I have been praying for you to come."
The mother who wrote the letter came to see who was being invited in and looked very weary and older than her years. Her mother said, "Look who has come to see us!" The daughter could not even muster a smile. She softly said, "Thank you for coming." Her heart was clearly broken and I could tell she was a long way from any semblance of healing.
After a few hours of talking and looking through their bills I could not even see how they had survived as long as they had. The mother explained she had been working and other than what her daughter needed medically they lived extremely frugally. She had no friends due to the long illness. Any friends she had were lost over the long years of caring for her sick child. They could not take the heartbreaking reality of her daily life as a caregiver. She did not have time for phone calls or a cup of coffee with friends. Her mother was her only constant companion and source of strength. I could see the strain of this had been hard on the grandmother of the little girl as well. When she told me her age I was shocked how hard this had been on her physically.
I talked to their landlord who lived in Chicago and explained their situation. Their God loving, gracious landlord was more than willing to step up and help. The landlord said, "I understand God has given me the opportunity to help. I will not ignore this opportunity from God." The landlord forgave the past rent and going forward reduced their rent in half until the mother could get a full time job. I profusely thanked the landlord. The mother and grandmother cried in relief.
I connected the Mother and Grandmother to a support group for families that have lost children to illness. Together they help each other to go through the many stages of healing. Through the network of The Time Is Now people she was able to find a job. We also found a reliable car to get her to her new job. We also provided them with food and gas vouchers.
It has been several months now. The mother and grandmother will always carry with them the pain of the loss of their little girl. Together we have removed the pains of poverty and at least given them financial relief. All of you who Care and Share have made it possible to give them shelter, food, support, and assistance. The mother wrote a letter thanking all of us for helping them cope and survive. She said, "God bless all of you at The Time Is Now for making us feel alive again."
Thank you for your Caring and Sharing. Together we make a tremendous difference, giving hope, compassion, and sustenance to our fellow creations.
Health & Happiness, God Bless Everyone, W.C.
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