Source: Lake Geneva Regional News

Woman in need feels she’s burdening parents

April 12, 2012

Dear W.C.,

I am a young woman that has been diagnosed with cancer. I was working and living on my own until this diagnosis. I have had to stop working due to my harsh cancer treatment. I sold most my belongings and moved back home with my parents. I am very worried because my parents are having such a hard time both financially and emotionally with me moving back home. They don’t like to share with me what is going on financially but I know they are struggling. My father was laid off a year ago from the job he worked at for 30 years. My mother has always worked part time in retail. They do not have enough income to support themselves since their savings ran out. Could you please help them so I do not feel like such a burden to them?

Grown Child Moved Home

Dear readers,

This young woman was very sick when I called her. She had just completed a chemotherapy session two days before and was having a terrible reaction. I planned to visit them the following week to give her time to recover. When I arrived at the small home I saw an older man cleaning out the garage. I walked up and introduced myself. He looked confused until I told him his daughter had written to The Time Is Now to Help in all of their behalf. After his initial shock he told me he was aware of our organization and often read the column in the newspaper. He told me it had been quite an ordeal having his daughter move home so gravely ill. He admitted he never thought he would be caring for his child as she fought for her life. He broke down and cried saying, “I pray to God to heal her. I do not know how I will go on if my baby girl doesn’t survive this.” I told him he needs to be strong for her, keep praying, and love her more than ever. He bowed his head and nodded in agreement.

I told him The Time Is Now to Help would like to be there to help him with this fight. He grabbed my hand in both hands and held it tight. We talked some more in the garage before going inside to meet the daughter. He said he did not want to speak about anything stressful or negative in front of his daughter. He shared with me the financial problems they were going through, made much worse by his job loss and the daughter moving home so ill. I asked him what bills were overdue and with that he looked at the ground and said, “Which ones aren’t?” They were waiting on the daughters disability to begin, which would improve their budget. The mother still worked part time. The father was looking for a job, but was not having any success finding a job in this market at his advancing age. After we went over some options and the assistance we would offer, we went inside so I could meet the daughter and his wife.

I have been in the homes of many sick fellow creations but it is always hard to see, especially when they are young. The daughter was in her thirties. She was frail and weak. Her hair that was once long and glorious, as pictured in a photo on the living room wall, was now gone. She was weak but still so happy to meet me. She tried to sit up but I immediately told her to not even think about getting up. I sat in a chair I positioned next to her so we could talk. The daughter may have looked weak but still had her wits about her. Her father had warned me she was somewhat opinionated and strong willed. I could see this personality trait was going to help her to fight the battle she was fighting. She was not going to give up without a fight. I was moved by her strength in such a weak state. She said with confidence, “When I am better I will be able to get back to work and help my parents. I am going to beat this disease.” I told her she needed to save her strength to get better. She leaned back on her pillow and closed her eyes. When she opened them again I could see the deep circles around her eyes and knew it was more than the disease making her so tired and drawn. She had been worrying about how her illness was financially affecting her family when she should have been resting and conserving her energy. I told her we were there to take the financial worry away so she could rest. With that she closed her eyes again and I thought she fell asleep.

I spoke with her mother and father quietly while she rested. After a few more minutes I heard her whisper, “Thank you W.C.” I held her hand and said, “Thank you for asking The Time Is Now to Help to bring help to your family during such a difficult time. We are happy to be here to help ease your stress and worry.” She was so weak by then I saw her relax into sleep, but not until she quietly said, “God bless Time Is Now for helping.” I went to speak to the mother and father in the next room. They told me about the daughters aggressive treatment she was undergoing. She had been very sick after each treatment and continually weaker. The doctors assured them this was normal and she was making good progress. They said her disability was due to start the following month. Until then they were behind in their utilities and car payment. They needed the car for doctors appointments and the mothers part time job. After reviewing their budget I could see where they needed help. The mother knew of The Time Is Now to Help. She told me, “I never thought we would get to the point of needing help.” I told her she was not alone. There are Americans suffering financial disaster all over our wonderful country. We brought their utilities up to date and paid some into the future. We paid their car payments up to date and provided some gas vouchers. We also provided them with some much needed household necessities.

Both parents broke down and cried. They kept saying, “Please thank everyone for their help, especially in such a hard time.” My dear readers, these poor parents had enough stress caring and praying for their daughters life. It was so right for us to ease their financial worries. Thank you for caring and sharing.

The next time we spoke the parents were overjoyed to announce the daughter was finished with chemotherapy and the doctors had given her a good report. The daughters disability had begun and this helped their budget to be on track. The father was able to get a part time job. Things were better for this family and they were much more positive over the future. The strong willed daughter felt better, stronger, and was very positive about beating her cancer. She gave me an entire list of what she was doing to change her life style to get cancer free. I agreed wholeheartedly with her. I encourage everyone to see the movie Forks Over Knives available on DVD. This is a must see for anyone dealing with health problems, especially cancer or heart disease.

God Bless all of you for helping our fellow creations by removing their pains of poverty. Thank you to everyone that has donated to The Montei Foundation $20,000 Matching Grant. Every dollar you donate will be matched by another, doubling your donation and doubling our help. Your help is what makes The Time Is Now to Help so successful in its fight to end the suffering of poverty. Thank you for your caring and sharing for our fellow Americans in need.

Health and Happiness, God Bless Everyone, W.C./Sal

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