Source: Lake Geneva Regional News

Count your blessings, remember your tragedies

October 11, 2012

You wonder why everyone is acting so normal.

You drive to work and there are other people driving to work who donít seem to care.

Store owners are getting ready for the day. Someone is jogging. Someone else is honking at someone who didnít notice the light is green.

The lake sparkles just as it did the last time you passed it, but it doesnít look quite the same.

A foggy barrier has come between you and the water, between the rest of the world and you.

When you go through personal challenges, things donít look or feel quite the same for a while. And you wonder why the whole world isnít hurting like you are.

My daughter and her boyfriend were beat up and robbed the other day.

Physically, they should be OK over time. Emotionally, there will no doubt be scars.

When you start life all over again, the day after, you look around and know thereís an outside world and an inside world. There are people having a good day or at least a normal one, and there are others who have faced dragons and lost.

Itís a good time to remember that the sides will be switched one day.

You will have those days where youíre part of that multitude outside that goes on about their business. Youíll be driving to work oblivious to what the person in the car in front of you has gone through the night before.

You will have days youíll see clearly the sparkle, where everything seems in place, where itís all about you and yours and the perfection of existence. Those are good days and worth savoring and perpetuating.

But thereís a Buddhist concept that tragedy can harden your heart or soften it. If you remember your hurt is shared by others on other days, you have made something good of whatever happened.

It should remind you of the commonality that makes us all victors and victims at different times.

Such events in your life should help you stop and listen with new ears the next time a friend wants to talk, keep an open mind when someone is upset and you donít get it, maintain patience when someone doesnít notice that the light is green.

They may be having a day when the rest of the world is acting like nothing happened.

And itís worth remembering that youíve had days like that, too.

Halverson is editor and general manager of the Lake Geneva Regional News.