Source: Lake Geneva Regional News

Helping a father in need

November 29, 2012

Dear W.C.,

My wife passed away at a young age. She has been gone two years now. I am trying to raise two children on my own. The only family I have left is my mother and she has offered to come live with us to help with the children. My boys and I are renting a mobile home that is in need of a lot of work. I go from paycheck to paycheck falling a little short every month. Grandma does not have the money for gas and moving expenses to get here.

She lives out of state and is all alone also. I would love for her to be here to help with the children. I do not want to lose my job. Child care is so expensive; I cannot afford it any more. I know my boys really need a motherly touch. I am a proud man so it is very hard for me to ask for financial help. I made a promise to my wife that I would always take care of our children. I feel like I am failing her and our children. Thank you for taking the time to read our letter.

Father needing help

Dear Readers,

We often help single mothers and children, grandparents and children, but there are fewer fathers raising children. I decided to pay a visit to the trailer park. When I arrived I saw the trailer was indeed very rundown. I noticed a truck in the drive so I decided to pay a visit. When I knocked on the door it was answered by a tall man with two young children peering from behind him. I introduced myself and saw the relief on his face. He immediately asked me inside.

The trailer was rundown but fairly neat for a single father with two children. The father introduced me to the children that appeared to be around three and five. After a few minutes the children went back to playing in the small living room area. The father asked me to have a seat in the adjoining kitchen. He quietly told me about his wife’s illness, explaining he did not want the children to hear. The mother had been diagnosed with cancer while pregnant with their youngest child. She had been adamant about not terminating the pregnancy, in order to save her own life. Treatment had been too late by the time she gave birth. I could see how painful this was for the father to talk about. He said he was still making payments for the medical bills and they were like a monthly reminder of the whole event.

I asked him about their financial problems and he shared he was behind in his utilities and truck payment. Food and rent had been the most important things to pay for this month. He hung his head in shame and repeated the promise he had made to his wife before she passed.

After going over his budget I could see he really did need the help his mother could offer. He was paying a large portion of his income for child care when he was working. The grandmother’s help would eliminate this daycare expense. He also said his mother was an excellent cook and knew how to stretch a food budget. The very run down mobile home he was living in was only two bedrooms and the rent was more than a three bedroom apartment. I called a landlord I knew that had an excellent apartment building. The landlord had a three bedroom apartment available. With the father’s approval I held the apartment. The rent would save $100 a month for their budget and give them a much better home.

I told him his transportation, his truck payment, was important to keep his job. I also told him feeding the children, clothing, keeping the utilities connected to keep the children warm, paying his rent to prevent his family from becoming homeless, was more important than paying medical bills. I told him, “Your little gifts from God, your children, need to be first.” He began to cry and told me, “Since my dear wife died I have had no one to guide me. I always counted on her. She was not only my loving wife, she was my best friend.”

We called his mother. She was very excited to hear her son’s invitation to move in. I talked to her about her financial situation. She received just enough money each month to get by. She would only have a few dollars left at the end of the month. She only had a few pieces of furniture. I told her we would help her. She would have to move from out of state. She was all alone, no family or friends, a very lonely widow. She said, “I have been praying for this phone call. I was waiting for the invitation. My life is so lonely. All I do is wait for each day to pass. I do not even have the money needed to visit my only son and grandchildren.”

We helped the father and children with utilities, brought his truck payment up to date, helped them move into the new three bedroom apartment, and we were there when the mother/grandmother arrived. She hugged her son so tightly I could feel the love she shared. The grandmother cried as she said, “I cannot believe I’m here. Are you really my son? Am I dreaming? Are these really my grandchildren?” Her voice was breaking with each word, between her sobs. The son hugged her back, trying to hide his tears as he told her, “Mom, yes it’s me. I love you and I am so happy you are here.”

I visited again a few weeks later. They were doing well with their new budget. The father has the best loving daycare provided by his mother. The mother in turn spends each exciting day loving her son, grandchildren, and being loved.

Today I will count my blessings of health, family, food and good supportive friends I have in all of “You.” I wish all of “You” the same blessings. Together, we make our world a better place doing God’s good works.

Health and Happiness,

God Bless Everyone,


Help needed:

Make checks payable to:

The Time Is Now to Help,

P.O. Box 70

Pell Lake, WI 53157

The Time Is Now to Help is a federally recognized 501(c)3 charitable organization licensed in the states of Wisconsin and Illinois. You will receive a tax deductible, itemized thank you receipt showing exactly what every penny of your donation provided for the poverty stricken.

Thank yous

Matt and Meghan Norton and Family, Madison Dearborn Partners, Paul Ziegler/Ziegler Charitable Foundation , The Petco Foundation, Mark and Natalie Reno, Dick and Jean Honeyager, Kunes’ Country Auto Group, American Legion Post No. 24, Lakes Senior Citizens Club, GoodSearch, Carolyn May Essel, Margarie Egger, Ronald and Lily Fibiger, Shawn and Donna McLafferty, John and Marilyn LLoyd, Dan Mehring, Howard and Maureen Gleason, Nancy Yaeger, John Race, Dorothy Butek, Gerald and Joyce Byers, Ellen Flanagan, Lillian Rudolf, Sid and Patty Johnson, Joanne Zeasman, Milton and Carol Ann Ancevic, Harry and Phyllis Tiggemann, W.C. Family Resource Center/Food Pantry volunteers, and all the God loving volunteers of all our caring food pantries, ALL of you who support The Time Is Now to Help donation boxes, HonMemorials: Ronald and Patricia Sarna, Barbara Langelund, and Larry and Verna Lee Magee in memory of Mary Leonard. Chris Ann’s Resale Shop: I will continue to ask Chris Ann’s Resale shop for furniture and household necessities to help our poverty stricken fellow Americans. If you have anything you would like to donate please call (262)348-9088. They are located at 406 Hwy. 120 North, Lake Geneva, in the old Floor Store building across from the Shell gas station and Next Door Pub. “Look for the American Flags.”

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