Source: Lake Geneva Regional News

Time is Now helps with car repair

by Sal Dimiceli

October 24, 2013

Last week we were embarrassed to ask for your help, but I had to for the poverty stricken.
God bless and thank you for those who came forward to help those in desperate need. We were humbled by the many people that told us to never be embarrassed to ask for help/donations.
We ask for your support due to the many coming to us for assistance. When our fellow Americans are living without utilities, without safe transportation, food, toiletries and on the verge of homelessness, we feel their pain and need to help. We are so grateful to everyone that made an effort to keep our doors open, to make sure we were able to answer the pleas of the poor.
We truly come together to care and share and do good works for our suffering fellow creations. God bless you and thank you for helping.

Dear W.C.,
On my last trip to Children’s Hospital with my daughter we were nearly in an accident.
My car is so unsafe. The tires are bald, and it is very unreliable. I am a single mother that counts on this car for my daughters frequent medical visits. My eight-year-old daughter has a birth defect that requires repeated monitoring and treatment.
My ex-husband pays child support when he has a job, which he does not at this time.
He is not involved in our daughter’s day-to-day life. I am the full-time caregiver.
We receive some assistance but it is not enough to provide car repairs and tires for a very old, unreliable car. It is barely enough to pay our rent, food and utilities.
When I do a car repair we fall behind somewhere else. Can you please help me with safe transportation?

Dear readers,
It was great to be able to answer this letter as it had been one that was waiting for funding.
Car repairs continue to be one of the top requests, along with housing and utilities.
You do not realize how important transportation is until you do not have any. Have you ever been upset because your car is at the repair shop overnight? How would you feel being financially unable to pay for repairs?
How would you feel if your tires had no tread left and they are so bald you slide off the road if it is raining, making it impossible to drive at all? It is very stressful, knowing if you do not get to work you cannot pay your bills, and worse you may lose your job. If you have a friend or family member to rely on for a ride or to borrow a vehicle you are very lucky. Many do not have anyone else to rely on but themselves.
That is the position this mother and daughter were in.
I arrived at their apartment and saw firsthand the amount of care required for the little girl.
After meeting at the door and providing identification, the mother invited me in and introduced me to her daughter. The mother asked the little girl about her trips to the doctor. The daughter spoke frankly about everything, as only a child can.
She told me how she was more afraid of the car ride than the actual doctor whom she said was very nice. In her own words, “Last time we went to the doctor it was raining and my Mommy was crying and screamed because we slid off the road. It was so scary. I don’t want to go to the doctor anymore in that bad car.” The mother looked like she was going to cry again when the daughter said that. I told the little girl, “Well we are going to get that bad car all fixed or get another one.”
With that both the mother and daughter smiled with relief.
I went outside to look at their car. The tires were indeed bald, in fact I don’t know how they ever managed to even arrive safely on that fateful rainy day to the hospital. I set up an appointment for a check up on the car and new tires. We did not have a car available to give her, but this car could be made safe and reliable.
I asked to go over their budget and expenses.
The mother said, “I did not ask for any other help. I am OK with doing without if there is something my daughter needs. You have so many other people that need help besides us.”
While it was nice she was being so humble, I could see by looking around there were other needs she was not telling me about.

After some persuasion she showed me her bills. Her cell phone was about to be shut off and her refrigerator and cabinets were very empty.
They did not have a landline phone so I knew the importance of her having the cell phone for emergencies. I asked about family or friends. She said, other than a sister who lived in Minnesota, she only had a small support group for parents with children with special needs she met with once a month when the children were all in therapy.
She had formed a few good friendships from that group, but they all lived too far away for regular visits. They texted each other on days when they needed some extra support.
I could see this communication would be very important to this mother. We paid her cell phone and provided food. We also provided gift cards for gas, winter clothing for both the mother and daughter, and much needed toiletries.
The mother was so grateful for this extra help. I could see she was holding back tears when she said, “I never expected to even have my car fixed by a complete stranger, much less these other things that are so much needed for my daughter and I.
I can’t remember the last time we bought new toothbrushes or tissues. Last year my daughters boots and coat were much too small.” I told her, “This year she will have something that fits and keeps her warm.” The daughter looked at her and asked, “Mommy, why are you crying? I am happy you are getting a coat and boots. Aren’t you happy?”
The mother wiped her tears and said, “I am as happy as the day I first met my beautiful little girl.” A saying the mother used often to confirm her love for her handicapped darling daughter.
Thank you again for allowing us to bring this much needed assistance. It is not always easy to see the real needs of those around us. Sometimes we have to look harder, ask more questions and be observant to subtle signals.
Poverty is not always as obvious as the broken down shack or the seemingly homeless person. Sometimes it is the small family, living in the empty apartment, suffering in silence.
Together, we break the silence of those suffering and we provide the loving care God wants us to share with those around us. Thank you, thank you for making our mission possible.
My dear Friends, Please help. Every dollar you donate will be matched by another, through the Richard Dreihaus $30,000 Matching Grant, doubling your help to our fellow creations in desperate need.

Health and happiness,
God bless everyone,

Mailing address
Make checks payable to::
The Time Is Now to Help
P.O. Box 1
Lake Geneva, WI 53147
The Time Is Now to Help is a federally recognized 501(c)3 charitable organization licensed in Wisconsin and Illinois. You will receive a tax deductible, itemized receipt showing how your donation provided assistance for the poverty stricken.

Geneva Inn Fundraiser
Please join us Friday, Nov. 15, at the beautiful Geneva Inn Grandview Dining Room for a dinner benefitting The Time Is Now to Help. Geneva Inn will be providing door prizes and auction, and a good portion of your meal expense will be donated to The Time Is Now to Help to provide assistance to the poverty stricken.
Please call (262) 248-5690 to make your reservation between 5 p.m. and 9 p.m. Geneva Inn is located at N2009 S. Lake Shore Dr., Lake Geneva.

Special thank you
Fox Charities, Lake Geneva Area Realty, Martin Group, John Stensland and family, Mark and Julia Kiehl, Delavan United Methodist Church, Thrivent Choice Program, Ray and Pam Ring, Marvin and Audrey Hersko, Clifford and Marilyn Snudden, Joseph and Barbara Moos, J.T. Marty, Lynda Adas, William and Jean Isaacson, Rick and Juanita Coleman, Carolyn May Essel, Phyllis Heinrich, Julie Janke, Bonnie Cowans, Nancy Yaeger, Donald and Mildred Carl, Penny Froh, Gerald and Marilyn Wilkin, Carole Francis, Claudia Siesennop, Dale and Gail Folkers, Milton and Carol Ann Ancevic, Edward Paredes, Gale Baccetti, John Race, W.C. Family Resource Center/Food Pantry volunteers, and all the God-loving volunteers of all our caring pantries, all of you who support The Time Is Now to Help donation boxes, and the businesses that allow our donation boxes.
Anyone who would like a Time Is Now donation box in your business, please call (262) 249-7000.

In loving memory of Jean Watts from Pat Watts, Barb and Charlie Obligato, Judy Castleman, Clarence Jacobs Family, and Gary and Irene Straz.